anna asked:
They make me do everything, including stuff they should be doing such as getting their own food from the cafe etc.
I am actually a push-over! Help?! :]
They make me do everything, including stuff they should be doing such as getting their own food from the cafe etc.
I am actually a push-over! Help?! :]
Try saying no?
There is only one way to make them stopping treating you this way. Learn to say, NO!
get new friends
get new freinds
Learn to say no or do it yourself you lazy bint.
stand up for yourself =] Don’t be afraid to tell them to do it themselves. Id say ‘You got two feet, and two hands go do it yourself’
Say something before its too late
They are disrespecting you. I suspect this is because you have not respected yourself, so they have naturally taken your lead. Everyone deserves respect, love, to feel beautiful. Everyone. You deserve respect.
Do not let them treat you like that because if they continue to do so when you have stood your ground and said no, they are not true friends.
Take some time to think about if this is true, assess why you have low self-esteem, and find people and activities that build you up and strengthen your confidence.
God bless
Say NO.
– get new friends.
You’ve made yourself become a maid.
Try getting new friends. That will probably fix the problem. If it doesn’t, you’re a push-over, and you need to learn how to say no.
first thing you should learn is to say NO…
a clear NO
you never ever compromise your values or preferences for anyone even for you friends…
i mean its really good to help your friends but if they start taking you for granted no buddy just show them your importance…i know how you feel about it you feel bad wen u say no but u have to do it…
you know if you will keep doing this to yoirself you will regret all your life…so comeon go ahead and say No…you can do it in a polite way….like for example if you cant say direct no start making excuses for not doing there work later on they will realise that you have changed and if they feel bad about it then talk to them if they are your true friends they will understand….and if they feel bad that means they just wanted some slave…and not a friend..
stand up for yourself! tell them how you feel! this is basiclly bullying!
and bullying is really wrong.
Tell them how you feel and if things dont improve, find yourself some freind who respect you!
No one can treat you like this unless you allow them.
Saying NO will stop them.
You do things to help your friend but if they order you around and make you go do this or go do that, that is bullying. You should find new friends. Just drop these people. They are bad news.
You should say NO now. Not some future time, but you should do it right away.
One doesn’t not stop others, one stops themselves.
There is several good comments here in response to your posting, but be clear – it is YOU who takes action to free yourself.
One stops acting as the slave
One stops responding to others’ criticism
One occupies themselves with far more constructive activity
One removes themselves from abusive situations
You can take care of yourself first (e.g. get your food and get seated)
You can try humor, laughing it off (get your own food)
Very quickly, you’ll learn whether so-called friends can adjust to your independence or not. But my dear, owning yourself is paramount. There are wonderfully docile and gentle people in the world who NEVER allow themselves to be abused. You don’t have to be a powerhouse to demand respect – there are many, many gentle warriors. You need to be unflappable, hold regard for honor, give yourself that self-respect, and if others cannot get over themselves, be willing to move on without the abusers.
With such grace and personal integrity, those who value you, as you value yourself, will begin to enter your sphere.
Be ‘extra’ nice to them..do not bow down and try to do everything they say.. just show them that you’re not the same person as they are.
Um.. this is just my answer: Oh my! what kind of friend is tat!!
Well, I just recommand you to be strong. If you think they’re getting too far, then just learn to ditch them and see if they care about you.. if they don’t, then they aren’t your friends.
say no and get new friends
just say NO!!! ask them why they can’t get it themselves. its not hard. don’t be a damn pushover.
No1.They are not your friends.
Friends do not boss other friends around and make them do things for them.
They do not have enough respect which you DESERVE
and need
Also
I think you need to start saying NO and stop pleasing everybody else and think about you.
I’m not saying to start being a stuck up ***** but no the barrier
between being a slave and being independant