Sarie asked:
We are both college students and have been going out for a little under a year. I am unsure of what his views are on *** and I want to talk about it with him. He hasn’t yet started showing any obvious hints about it but I am curious so I want to start up a conversation about it, how can I do that? Thanks!
We are both college students and have been going out for a little under a year. I am unsure of what his views are on *** and I want to talk about it with him. He hasn’t yet started showing any obvious hints about it but I am curious so I want to start up a conversation about it, how can I do that? Thanks!
He is probably ***. I have had two friends who had the same problem and they found out after they got married. They are both now divorced. Find someone new before he breaks your heart.
Instead of him giving you hints, how about you give him some hints about ***. lol
Wow you guys haven’t mentioned *** yet?
Well I think that the best thing to do is to bring up a current event, say that 13 year old father for instance, and then ask him something like.. what do you think about that? Or tell him I don’t think that they should have been experimenting at such an early age or whatever your views are. Likely this will ignite a whole conversation.
As you guys are dating regularly, conversations like these shouldn’t really be awkward. Maybe at first but not after awhile.
Usually when I want to find out my boyfriend’s views about something, I might just use an article or something that happened to our friends and then tell him what I think. He would tell me what he thinks and there we have a conversation!
After the first time, its usually more comfortable to talk about it again the next time.
Well i don’t know that much but if you bring it up and be open with him you could have a better relationship. Say it before it is too late or you could regret it. But if he isn’t ready then don’t push him. If you really love him you’ll respect his decision.And vice versa. At least that is what my health teacher says on the list of top ten things that couples should know *** is only number nine.
1.Love
2. Talk
3. Laughter
4. Involvement
5. Friendships
6.Integrity
7. Tolerance
8. Adaptability
9.Sex and Sexual fulfillment
10 sharing responsibilities
I really hopes that this helps!! good luck!!
He’s probably shy about the issue. Make no mistake about it, he’s a guy—and like all us guys, he’s most definitely thinking about *** 110% of the time. Us guys don’t usually show obvious hints. He’ll have no problem talking about that subject with his homeboys. Believe me, when he’s hanging out with them, they’re asking him a million times if he’s banged you already. I think when he’s with you, he is trying to be tactful about taking about the topic because now he’s conversing with a woman—you. In his mind, there’s no telling how you may react.
Could it be that he might be afraid that mentioning the word *** around you may cause you to fly into some righteously indignant feminist tantrum? OH NO! You is not sleeping with me until you put a ring on my finger . . . blah blah friggin’ blah blah. Don’t have me wrong, *** after marriage is the way to go, and it’s respectful for a woman to tell her man that. It’s just that we don’t like being verbally emasculated in the process, which is what your boyfriend is thinking. He’s probably just trying to be the perfect gentleman around you, and feels that maybe it’s not quite time to bring up sex, that’s all.
It’s not because he might be ***. Common sense says if he was, he wouldn’t be dating you!
Just start talking about it. You have got to be able to communicate to have a healthy relationship.
Well, you two have been going out for a while, and both are college students…just bring it up x] It’s not a bad topic, and something you two should talk about anyways =] I’m actually impressed he hasn’t talked about *** to you, but since you’re curious, just ask him about it. It won’t freak him out I believe ^_^;